Sunday, October 06, 2013

THE ESSENCE OF COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP

The following story clearly shows the essence of Communication in any relationship.
Please Read and Learn.

An old couple around the age of 70, walk into a lawyer's office. Apparently, they are there to file a divorce. Lawyer was very puzzled, after having a chat with them, he got their story. This couple had been quarreling all their 40 over years of marriage nothing ever seems to go right. They hang on because of their children, afraid that it might affect their up-bringing. Now, all their children have already grown up, have their own families, there's nothing else the old couple have to worry about, all they wanted is to lead their own lives free from all these years of unhappiness from their marriage, so both agree on a divorce. Lawyer was having a hard time trying to get the papers done, because he felt that after 40 years of marriage at the age of 70, he couldn't understand why the old couple would still want a divorce.. While they were signing the papers, the wife told the husband. "I really love you, but i really can't carry on anymore, I'm sorry.." "Its o.k, i understand.." said the husband.

Looking at this, the lawyer suggested a dinner together, just 3 of them,wife thought, why not, since they are still gonna be friends. At the dining table, there was a silence of awkwardness. The first dish was roasted chicken, immediately, the old man took the drumstick for the old lady. "Take this, its your favorite...."
 

Looking at this, the lawyer thought maybe there's still a chance, but the wife was frowning when she answered...."This is always the problem, you always think so highly of yourself, never thought about how I feel, don't you know that i hate drumsticks?"
Little did he know that, over the years, the husband had been trying all ways to please her, little did the wife know that drumsticks was the husband's favorite hence the reason why he preferred the wife to have them. Little did he know that she never thought he understood her at all, little did he know that she hated drumsticks even though all he wanted was the best for her.

That night, both of them couldn't sleep, toss and turn, toss and turn, toss and turn, eish tosh and turn......after hours, the old man couldn't take it anymore, he knew that he still loved her, and he couldn't carry on with life without her, he wanted her back, he wanted to tell her, he was sorry, he wanted to tell her "I love you".... Good heavens!! He picks up the phone, starts dialing her number....ringing never stops..he doesn't stop dialing.... Ring ring ring.... What's up! On the other side, she was sad, she couldn’t understand how come after all these years, he still couldn't understand her at all, she loves him a lot, but she just can't take it anymore....phone's ringing, she refuses to answer knowing that it's him... "Whats the point of talking now that it's over..... I have asked for it and now i wanna keep it this way, if not i will lose face.."

She thought. Still ringing.... She has decided to pull out the cord. She did not pick his calls. Little did she remember that he had heart problems...

The next day, she received news that he had passed away...She rushed down to his apartment, saw his body, lying on the couch still holding on to the phone... He had a heart attack when he was still trying to get through her phone line so he died holding the phone.... As sad as she could be she had to clear his belongings.While she was looking through the drawers, she saw this insurance policy, dated from the day they got married, with the beneficiary being her. And together in those files, there was a note.

"To my dearest wife, by the time you're reading this, am sure I'll no longer be around, i bought this policy for you, though the amount is only $100k, i hope it will be able to help me continue a promise that i made when we got married, i might not be around anymore, i want this amount of money to continue taking care of you, just like the way it could have been if i lived longer.I want you to know that i will always be around, by your side... I will always love you".

She couldn't hold it. Tears cascaded down her wrinkled cheeks.

MORAL LESSON:
When you love someone, let them know. You never know what will happen the next minute. Learn to build a life together. Learn to love each other. Love people for who they are and not what they are or what they have.


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